It happens to all of us. We have to deal with breakups, divorces, losing loved ones. Sometimes a breakup can be a good thing. If we were in a toxic relationship, we would be very grateful for the breakup. And sometimes a breakup is bad. That happens when we separate ourselves from the people we still love.
How to move on after a bad separation is the title of this article. And I know this because I've been through a bad breakup once. I felt like my life had stopped and I can't live my life and move on after that. Until they gave me some advice, support and encouragement from real friends.
Now I realize that without the real help of real friends. I couldn't move on after the bad Depresion. Therefore, I want to be your friend and I want you to accept my advice here; Because I want to help you go ahead and live your life after having tasted the bitterness of this bad breakup.
I know you will suffer. And that you will feel incapable of doing all these things. But I want you to try to do the most important things. These tips will help you minimize post-rupture trauma only if you do something on the ground.
- Accept the break: you must realize that the break is a fact in your life. Some people go through denial and cannot accept the breakup. The first thing you should do is accept the breakup and be prepared to accept the resulting responsibility.
- Take advantage of your experience: Remember what happened in your relationship with your ex. Take lessons and learn what was wrong and what was right.
- Stay away from blaming yourself: There is a fine line between learning about your mistakes and blaming yourself for them. There is a difference between owning a gun and aiming it at the head and pulling the trigger.
- Don't think again about your last conversations with your ex: it's normal for people who recently broke up with their exes to remember their last conversation. Wondering what would happen if they had said or done something different. Do not do that. What happened happened and you don't have a time machine to go back in time to change it. We look forward to your future.
- Write down your feelings: It is relaxing to write about how you feel about the breakup and how you are dealing day by day. This may be difficult at first, but you will find that it will heal you and help you pour your emotions on paper. You can also share them online if you used a pseudonym.
- Reconnect with old friends: Find positive friends and ask them to be your mentors and advisers. You want those kinds of friends to help you with your decisions. Not the ones who will continue to blame you for the breakup or choosing your partner. You want friends to cheer you up; you don't want those friends who will make you feel guilty, foolish and loveless.
- Work hard: nothing will make you busier than concentrating on your work. Set a new goal, like getting a raise, a promotion, or satisfying your customers.
- Don't escape from facing the truth: the breakup is a difficult thing that happened in your life. When faced with a breakup, you may want to eat unhealthy foods, sit all day watching something on TV, drink alcohol, or take drugs. These are temporary solutions that will not help you solve the problem. You cannot solve a problem by escaping the consequences. You have to face them bravely.
- Find a place for change in your life: organize your office from all unnecessary documents. Clean your place and cabinets. Get the gym subscription you need. Get a new outfit, a new haircut.
- Get out of the house: go with your friend to a nearby mountain. Go play beach volleyball with new friends. Hang out in different places. See new people. Invite your mother to dinner at a fancy restaurant. Try volunteer work. Help people in need. The list is endless and you will feel high self-esteem, respect and trust.
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